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Puberty is a nightmare for everyone, from the kids experiencing this greasy transformation to the parents and teachers who have to explain sex to these horrified children. But kids like me who grew up in the early '90s had it especially rough. Not only did we have to deal with bovine-looking uterus diagrams and condom-clad bananas, we were also bombarded with a ton of explicitly sexual songs on the radio and TV, from artists like Salt-N-Pepa and Gillette.

There was nothing we could do. These songs would just come on the radio while our parents were driving and we would sit there silently. Change the radio station, and you acknowledge the discomfort. Do nothing, and you're stuck in traffic with your parents for three minutes, listening to a ballad about knocking boots (which is what we called it in those days).

When I say “explicitly sexual,” I don’t mean graphic. I just mean this was a period in which sexual metaphors and euphemisms were largely discarded in favour of literal language. While listeners of previous generations could draw their own conclusions from Jerry Lee Lewis’s “Whole Lotta Shakin’ Goin’ On,” my generation could only interpret Color Me Badd’s “I Wanna Sex You Up” as a song about sexing someone up.

Sure, my older siblings had George Michael’s “I Want Your Sex” to deal with, and kids born a few years later would have to decode the meaning in Missy Elliott’s “Work It.” The early '90s had a real explosion of sex songs. Here is how these songs filled in the gaps of what we learned in sex-ed class.

'Let’s Talk About Sex' by Salt-N-Pepa

What we learned: This song seems to be more about the talking than the sex. In fact, the first minute is all preamble about whether they should actually talk about sex. I guess the lesson was that sex isn’t as important as love, and it's OK to talk about it. And of course, since it was the early '90s, there was some talk about safe sex. Actually, this song was pretty straightforward, even for a confused tween. Maybe it was “Shoop” that stirred up all my hormones.

'I Wanna Sex You Up' by Color Me Badd

What we learned: “Sex you up” means “intercourse,” right? Or something close. The direction “up” doesn’t apply to the actual mechanics of sexing, right? I always thought these guys looked so smooth with their gigantic suits and manicured beards. I worried I was never gonna be like that and no woman was ever gonna let me sex them up, although from the looks of this video, I think I was fine with that. It made it look like sex is super serious and not fun, and the repeated line “Making love until we drown” was pretty worrisome, and the line “We can do it 'til we both wake up” implied some kind of bizarre fugue state. I guess I’ll stick with snapping girls' bras. At least that’s something I understand.

'Short Short Man' by Gillette and 20 Fingers

What we learned: Size matters, and when sex is the only thing on your mind, it’s like she’s singing just to you. I can honestly say, as a 13-year-old boy I wondered if I would ever measure up to the standards of this awful woman who also sang “Mr. Personality.” She’s so mean! Why did I care what she thinks?

'People are Still Having Sex' by LaTour

What we learned: The clinical spoken word and robotic beat made the song so emotionless, I remember thinking, “This is what sex must be like in Europe.” Can’t really explain why. Thanks to this song and my knowledge of time zones, I realized that at any time of day, someone on the planet is having sex, and that was incredibly exciting. I was still under the impression that sex could only be had at night (the love-making hours).

'Justify My Love' by Madonna

What we learned: The lyrics and the video made sex seem like some exhausting burden. Also, this was way too much to take in. I was a little boy who wanted to know a little bit about sex and this was the PhD program at Sex Mask University.

'Waterfalls' by TLC

What we learned: TLC was one of the safe-sexiest groups around, from Lisa Lopes’s condom glasses in “Hat 2 Da Back” to the HIV reference in “Waterfalls.” I was always confused by the line “She gives him loving that his body can't handle,” and the fact that it referred to the disease. I thought it referred to some kind of vigorous love-making, but even I knew that the quality of the experience had nothing to do with the likelihood of contracting a disease. I was like an idiot savant when it came to bedroom stuff.

'Detachable Penis' by King Missile

What we learned: This one’s pretty funny. I mean, the idea of a detachable penis. That’s ridiculous! Right? They’re not supposed to be detachable, right? Like, that’s super uncommon, isn’t it? Is mine supposed to be? How? Oh, it’s all a joke? I knew it.

'Sex Type Thing' by Stone Temple Pilots

What we learned: Even as a clueless kid, this song seemed phony. The title “Sex Type Thing” was so vague, it’s like they couldn’t quite identify it. Thanks anyway, STP.

'Cursed Female' by Porno for Pyros

What we learned: Oh, man. I don’t get sex at all. Is that what’s even going on in this video? Or did the band name cause me to jump to that conclusion? This was the most confusing thing I’d ever seen in Grade 7. Apparently sex has a stark and sinister side. Remind me not to ask my teacher about this.

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on Nov 04, 2013

Man, all I can remember is learning about sex by listening to my older brother's cassettes that he kept hidden in a bottom drawer of his room - I heard "Stroke it" by clarence carter and several 2LiveCrew tracks on a mixtape he had and I knew there was so much I didn't know.  Not 90s, but still tracks that were being listened to in the 90s.

Growing up gay I was even more confused.  I wanted the NKOTB "Step by Step" album, but I KNEW I should be listening to NIN Further Down the Spiral because my older brother's friends were talking about it.  The first time I heard "Closer" I was terrified.  Needless to say KNOTB just didn't cut it for me anymore after I knew what was really going on out there thanks to Nine Inch Nails.  It was a transitional period for me.

Also "Lick it" by 20 Fingers, I just knew that was something I didn't want to do.  It might have been right then that I knew something was different about me.

Old Abe
#2 posted by
Old Abe
on Nov 04, 2013

Dave Shumka, you crack me up. Great post!

fictionjunkie
#3 posted by
fictionjunkie
on Nov 04, 2013

More Dave Shumka gold! I had the whole Colour Me Badd cd...don't think I ever listened to it with my parents around!

SamaraS
#4 posted by
SamaraS
on Nov 05, 2013

Hilarious!  :D

laurita.snow
#5 posted by
laurita.snow
on Nov 08, 2013

I actually remember being anywhere from 1-4 years old and "dancing" on the couch (i.e jumping up and down on the cushions rhythmically) to "Lets Talk About Sex" by Salt-N-Pepa. and singing along loudly with the words.

my mother has blocked this memory out.

90sgirl
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90sgirl
on Nov 09, 2013

Awesome! Freak Me by Silk was my embarrassing moment I was 14 when that came out, and I remember it coming on listening to my Walkman I guess I was singing along out loud and my dad came in my room and told me to stop singing, pretty sure I turned a pretty shade of red.

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